Classic Abuelita drinking yerba mate with a dress on her head.
Some people love other people as if one-size-fits-all. They can grab any random hanger off the rack and wear that love just fine. And sometimes...it works. and looks easy. Hey! If you're a clever seamstress, you can alter any generic love to fit you just right.
I witnessed Abuelita's clever seamstress skills all the time. All sorts of people had a place stitched in her heart.
Sometimes (maybe rarely?) loving a particular person is a custom fit from the start. And then it's a miracle. It's sublime. And when you recognize what a custom fit feels like...it becomes the measuring tape which tells you when to iron seams or when to rip them out so that any love can fit just right.
(Or when it's time to give up the alterations and simply wear the dress on your head.)
off to drink some yerba mate
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